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Shelley Blanton-Stroud's avatar

Great piece on Cassandra vs. Sean. It isn't the same, but last night I rewatched the Martha Stewart documentary, which is aligned with your point that women often get evaluated by a different set of criteria than men.

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Julie Metz's avatar

Yes, the terrible double standard!

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Stephanie's avatar

All too often, the system continues to favor of the perpetrator. Shame keeps those of us who have experienced it silent. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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Caroline Ely's avatar

Overreliance on male approval leads to dangerous places. The sooner young women learn this fact the better.

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Alice Elliott Dark's avatar

I agree with you. I am always shocked when people expect young women to know they should expect to be raped if they go to a man's hotel room, etc. It's on women to keep themselves safe. Women are under suspicion for having the power to make them feel desire and for having the power to make other people. Until men stop being so envious we will be blamed for their bad behavior.

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Julie Metz's avatar

Exactly. You are 19, full of hormones and energy and urges. There is nothing wrong with all those natural feelings, the desire for love. The evil is what happens when a certain kind of controlling man abuses that. Young women lack that ability to see the [red flags,” even when there are guardians to watch over them—parents, agents, etc. And if they have no one? Then they are on their own, too young.

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